2008 Woodie Awards
Q & A with Ms. Tiree
"Boring" Girl Needs Answers
Section: Opinion
Dear Ms. Tiree,
Q: I am a junior at NSU and I'm faced with a dilemma. I'm what most people would consider a good girl and I think because of that, it's been hard for me to meet a guy on campus. Don't get me wrong, I'm no angel, but I don't like wearing tight and revealing clothes or acting crazy in public to get guys attention. Its seems like the guys I like only pay attention to the girls that "put out" for a lack of better words, but that's really not my style. But since it's been almost a year and I still haven't attracted any of my crushes, I've been considering changing my style to adapt to the expectations of guys on campus. What do you think, should I change it up to get them to notice me, stay my average "good girl" style?
Signed,
Boring and lonely
A: Dear Boring and lonely,
Changing who you are is exactly what you DON'T need to do. You are fine the way you are and you don't have to conform to any man's expectations in order for them to like you. What you wear and how you act are a representation of who YOU really are. Changing into the "bad girl" image comes with a price. Those girls who wear revealing clothes and "put out" get treated exactly how they look, like they're putting out. And from the info you've given me, that's not the response you want when guys on campus approach you. What you could try doing is showing people more of your style and presence by simply smiling more often or attending events on campus to meet different types of guys who have your similar interest. But whatever you do, never change yourself to fit someone else's expectations of you, because in gaining a boyfriend, you will be losing yourself.
Q: I am a junior at NSU and I'm faced with a dilemma. I'm what most people would consider a good girl and I think because of that, it's been hard for me to meet a guy on campus. Don't get me wrong, I'm no angel, but I don't like wearing tight and revealing clothes or acting crazy in public to get guys attention. Its seems like the guys I like only pay attention to the girls that "put out" for a lack of better words, but that's really not my style. But since it's been almost a year and I still haven't attracted any of my crushes, I've been considering changing my style to adapt to the expectations of guys on campus. What do you think, should I change it up to get them to notice me, stay my average "good girl" style?
Signed,
Boring and lonely
A: Dear Boring and lonely,
Changing who you are is exactly what you DON'T need to do. You are fine the way you are and you don't have to conform to any man's expectations in order for them to like you. What you wear and how you act are a representation of who YOU really are. Changing into the "bad girl" image comes with a price. Those girls who wear revealing clothes and "put out" get treated exactly how they look, like they're putting out. And from the info you've given me, that's not the response you want when guys on campus approach you. What you could try doing is showing people more of your style and presence by simply smiling more often or attending events on campus to meet different types of guys who have your similar interest. But whatever you do, never change yourself to fit someone else's expectations of you, because in gaining a boyfriend, you will be losing yourself.
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